I must admit I am befuddled about the concept of MU (short for mutual understanding). As far as I understand it, it is a sort of a limbo or a purgatory, a midpoint from being friends to being lovers. Two people who knows they love each other, but hasn’t arrived at an agreement, to be explicitly exclusive to each other, that they are committed to each other. They just know that they are in love.

I always wonder why can’t they just admit it to each other and come to an agreement. There are so many ambiguities involved in an MU situation. Like: is any of the two entitled to get jealous? Is any of the two allowed to flirt? What if someone courts the other? Are these ambiguities even worth the effort of being in an MU situation?

Or maybe people are enamored to the “flexible” arrangement of MU. Afterall, in an MU situation, there is no commitment. That means any of the party can bail out without the necessary mess. Any of the party can go seek out what’s there. They get to keep their options open. In short, getting the benefits of being in a relationship but without the responsibilities.

My advice to those under MU: go talk to each other, solidify your status, and commit. Being in MU is just like fooling with each other with no strings attached.